Have you ever found yourself in your feelings because you see other people getting opportunities that you are equally or better qualified for? Have you ever felt ignored by people who you know see you, but refuse to acknowledge your skills and talents? Have you felt like you should have definitely been one to receive an invitation to a certain event and are still confused as to why you didn’t? Have you ever felt like you deserve a seat at a specific table, but fear that you won’t ever get it?
These last 4 years of my life, since making the choice to step out on faith and walk fully in my purpose, have been both the most challenging and enlightening years of my life. Challenging, mostly because I am constantly moving further and further out of my comfort zone and enlightening because I am learning so much more about how life works. Three of the best things that I have learned are:
- You are not entitled to the opportunities other people are creating. This isn’t always an easy pill to swallow. It can be hurtful to constantly be overlooked and underestimated by your peers and leaders in your industry. Take your 5 minutes to feel discouraged about it, then get your head back in the game because just sitting around complaining about lack of opportunity won’t change a thing. Instead of allowing it to break you down, you can do 2 things. You can step your game up and get more aggressive about putting yourself in position to receive the opportunities you think you deserve OR you can choose to acknowledge your own power and create your own opportunities.
- You’re not always ready for what you think you are. Just because you want it, prayed for it, or planned for it doesn’t mean that you’re ready for it. One of the most common reasons why I hear people say that their business or marriage failed is because they made moves prematurely. They wanted something and got it, but they weren’t really prepared to take on the work it would require to maintain it. It is by God’s grace that you don’t have all of the things you think you want and deserve right now. Just look at the stories of people who win the lottery, become millionaires overnight, and are broke again within a few years or celebrities who know each other for 2 minutes, have a grand wedding, and are divorced before the ink can dry on the marriage certificate. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have or where you’re not yet, focus on getting prepared to receive everything that your heart desires. Stay ready so that you don’t have to get ready.
- Be patient and wait your turn. Being impatient can cause you to make irrational decisions that you will later regret and push you further away from reaching your goals. Throwing tantrums because you didn’t get what you wanted when you wanted it or because someone else got it before you did is a sign of immaturity and that you likely aren’t ready for the level you think you should be on. I can happily and genuinely celebrate the accomplishments of other women because I have learned that we all, those of us who are really working, will get our turn to win. I never worry about another woman stealing opportunities from me because I am confident that what’s for me will always find me. There is so much peace in being patient and having faith that you will always reap what you sow, whether it’s tomorrow or 5 years from now. If you can learn to be more patient with yourself and your journey, you will be better able to see and appreciate that everything you experience is meant to lead you to exactly where you are destined to be. Spend your days doing the best you can where you are and with what you have and you will be surprised to see how much more you’ll get and how much further you’ll go. Your turn is coming, just work for it and wait on it.