Can I keep it real, sis? I’m a woman and I love us for real, but too many of us make it difficult for others to genuinely love and support us. This is why I really stress the importance of making sure that we get our minds right and heal completely from past painful and traumatic experiences.
Recently, I really considered giving up on my mission to unite and empower women through Women by Choice because I got tired of dealing with women. Not all women, but enough to skew my perspective on whether fighting for sisterhood and unity among women is still worth my time, energy, and sacrifices. I know that, from the outside looking in, what I do looks like fun. It is a lot of the time, but then there are times when it’s emotionally exhausting and downright heartbreaking. I’m not perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but I can say with absolute certainty that I wake up every day with the intention to be better than I was the day before. I am constantly seeking God’s guidance to become my best self and working on myself daily to be a good example for my sisters and the women I am called to serve. My ultimate goal in life is to reach my full potential, fulfill my divine purpose, and leave a legacy of love, faith, and unity. With goals like that, I guess I should expect to experience opposition and adversity because when reading about the great people that came before me, they all were rejected, underestimated, and hated before they were truly valued, loved, and appreciated.
When I started Women by Choice, I used the tagline, “Females by Chance, Women by Choice”. As I continue along my journey, I’m finding that this tagline is more relevant than ever. Not all adult females are mature women. Not everyone who is over the age of 18 has the mindset to treat others the way they want to be treated or the understanding that they will reap what they sow. When I created Women by Choice, my goal was to attract only those who were truly striving to do and be their best while supporting others to do the same, but with a fast-growing social media platform that attracted celebrities and influential women, of course not everyone who entered my space came for the right reasons. I found myself feeling mentally and emotionally drained after pouring into people who only wanted to use my platform and had no intention of giving anything back. My heart has been broken multiple times because I take what I do personally. Women by Choice isn’t a business to me. It’s my life’s purpose and I truly believe that women are stronger together when we have our minds, hearts, and spirits together. I truly want to see and help others win and show the world how powerful we are when we see each other as sisters instead of enemies or competition.
Recently, I prayed to God for confirmation that I should continue on because, despite my struggles, I am willing to endure whatever if I know for sure that this is what God wants me to do. My faith is greater than my fears and I have already seen time and time again that even when the weapons form, nothing and no one can stop me from reaching the destiny God has for me. Well, God answered immediately with overwhelming confirmation and reminders of what I’m fighting for and why.
Over the last few weeks, I have had so many of my Women by Choice sisters tell me how much this network and sisterhood has impacted their lives. I was even told by one of my sisters that she and a lot of Women by Choice members would be upset if I just disappeared back to the introverted life I am most comfortable with. Although we are a global online-based network and our event schedule doesn’t kick off until May 2019, I’ve been blessed to attend events where I could be physically present among my sisters and reminded of how great it feels to be surrounded by women who exude only positive energy and genuinely want to see each other win. Honestly, I was hesitant about planning and pursuing the Stepping N2 Sisterhood Tour this year because I didn’t want to risk coming in contact with any new people who have bad intentions, but my sisters have reignited my passion for creating more spaces for the good ones to connect and collaborate. To sum it up, no matter what challenges I face, it’s all worth it. Although I may grow weary, I won’t faint and I will never up because I know for sure that what I’m doing is what God wants me to do and valued by many women.
It’s so much easier to dwell on the negatives than to focus on the positives. It’s easy to let a few bad experiences change your perspective on the whole world. It’s easy to let the world change you, but don’t. I share my journey because I want women, who also aspire to leave a meaningful legacy, to see that the most worthwhile things don’t come easy. Sometimes you will lose faith and passion, but it can be renewed, increased, and restored if you are seeking ways to move forward instead of give up. I am even more clear that the fight for sisterhood must continue because I’ve been blessed to connect with women who have spoken life into me and given me the fuel to pursue my mission. I desire for all women to know what it feels like to have sisters who love them unconditionally and have their backs through anything. If I can be a catalyst to help multiply the number of positive experiences women have with one another, I will have done my part to make a difference in the world. No matter what happens, I will keep preaching until my last breath, “When Women Support Women, We ALL Win!” I invite you to help me on this mission to break down barriers and bring women together. Join the sisterhood.