Is it just me or does it seem like as soon as you think you have life all figured out or you set new goals, something inevitably occurs to distract and/or discourage you from continuing to move forward? Thankfully, I fully accepted a few years ago that I won’t always be able to control the circumstances around me, but I can always control how I react to them. One thing about growth is that it is often painful and if you aren’t prepared to be uncomfortable, you likely won’t elevate to the next level. Throughout my journey, life has literally whipped me into shape. My consistent ability to overcome my struggles and obstacles has taught me that I am much stronger and more resilient than I think. Life has taught me how to “take a lickin’ and keep on tickin'”.
As a successful empowerment coach, author, speaker, and the founder of Women By Choice Global, I delight in sharing my testimonies because from the outside looking in, I know that there are some who assume that my life is a cake walk. However, that is the farthest thing from the truth. Although I have been able to achieve and accomplish extraordinary things, I experience obstacles and setbacks too. I am a real woman living in the real world just like you. In fact, today has been an extremely overwhelming day. I woke up this morning with the best intentions. I started my day with prayer, positive thoughts, and productive actions. I had a plan that I fully intended to execute timely and with excellence. Then, life hit me hard. I experienced delays, setbacks, and moments of mental exhaustion all before noon. Nothing went as I had planned. Even as I type this, everything in me wants to put back on my pajamas, crawl into bed, and try again tomorrow. But I’m not. Why? Well, because I have this rule. At the beginning of this year I promised myself that every night when I lay my head down to rest, I will be confident that I did my best. As an empowered woman, my emotions don’t run me and my feelings don’t dictate my productivity.
To be successful at anything, you must also be flexible and willing to adapt to change. The circumstances may not always look or feel how you expect them to, but you must choose to do and be your best regardless. Not only can good be found in seemingly bad situations, but it’s in difficult situations that your true character is revealed. Discomfort has the potential to bring out qualities in you that you didn’t know existed. Embrace the struggle. Allow it to bring something better out of you instead of letting it deter you from reaching your full potential. Instead of sitting around complaining about how rough my morning was, I chose to use it as inspiration for others. Instead of whining about my experience, I chose to be more productive and start writing about it. We all have choices. I feel better already knowing that instead of letting life knock me down and keep me down, I chose to turn my pain into power and lemons into lemonade. I hope that by me sharing this, you are encouraged to do the same.
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