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It's Never Too Late to Choose Better

 For years, I felt like my mother didn’t know me and I didn’t know her. The reason for that was lack of communication, but yesterday that changed. She came to visit me this weekend and along with spending some much-needed quality time together, we also sat down and had a long overdue conversation. In having this conversation, I realized just how different people’s perceptions of the same experiences can be and how a lot of family dysfunction can be resolved by communicating effectively.  As a child, I had certain expectations of my parents that they didn’t always meet. I, like many children, put my parents on a pedestal so when they didn’t show up in my life the way...

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It's Never Too Late to Choose Better

 For years, I felt like my mother didn’t know me and I didn’t know her. The reason for that was lack of communication, but yesterday that changed. She came to visit me this weekend and along with spending some much-needed quality time together, we also sat down and had a long overdue conversation. In having this conversation, I realized just how different people’s perceptions of the same experiences can be and how a lot of family dysfunction can be resolved by communicating effectively.  As a child, I had certain expectations of my parents that they didn’t always meet. I, like many children, put my parents on a pedestal so when they didn’t show up in my life the way...

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Nice For What

Nice – pleasant; agreeable; satisfactory They tell you, “Don’t let the world change you.” I say, “Don’t stay the same when the world has shown you that you can’t win that way.” I have always been proud to call myself a “nice girl”. I still am. However, what I have learned over the years is that being nice does not mean allowing myself to be used, disrespected, or run over. Unfortunately, I allowed a lot of that throughout my life, all in the name of being nice. I went above and beyond for people who never treated me the same, didn’t speak up for myself at the times when I really should have, charged less than I was worth, required...

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33 Choices Every Woman Should Make

In a few days, I will celebrate my 33rd birthday so I’ve been taking time to reflect over all that I’ve experienced and learned thus far. Perhaps one of the best lessons life has taught me is that my choices are what shape my life. Over the years, I can see how my relationships, health, career, and finances improved as my choices improved. Although every woman has different goals, these are 33 choices I think all women should make to be happier, healthier, and more successful in their lives and careers. Choose to love yourself more than your desire to be liked, accepted, or validated by others. Choose to do what you know is in your best interest even when...

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Forgiveness is Freedom

I forgive them. I forgive them without needing them to acknowledge what they did to me. I forgive them without receiving an apology. I forgive them because holding onto anger, resentment, disappointment, and sadness was weighing me down and holding me back.  I forgive them because that's what's best for me. For many years, I carried the burden of others ignorance, errors, evil, pain, insecurity, and negativity. When I wasn't blaming myself for why they treated me badly, I was harboring ill feelings towards them. Internally, I was an emotional wreck so I often sabotaged myself externally. I would allow my bad experiences with a few negatively impact my interactions with many. I would project the pain that one person...

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