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#MuteRKelly, but Unmute the Talks About Sexual Abuse in Our Homes

Disgusted, sad, and angry are just a few of the feelings I was left with after watching the Surviving R. Kelly documentary on Lifetime. I am disgusted by his actions and the allegations against him, sad for his victims, and angry at those who stood by and helped this happen. Although this documentary is currently a trending topic, for me it’s an opportunity to discuss the underlying issue and “elephant in the room”. There are a lot of R. Kelly’s roaming free and disrupting the lives of girls and women across this country, and there are a lot of onlookers and bystanders that are helping them continue to do so. Sexual abuse is unfortunately not uncommon in the black community....

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“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23 When I would read this Bible verse as a bitter and broken person, I understood it to mean that I should protect myself from people to avoid being heartbroken. Reading it now as a whole and healed woman, I understand it to mean that I should be careful of allowing my heart to grow bitter from uncontrollable life experiences. I have a lot of reasons to be bitter, but I make the choice not to be. I can make plenty of excuses for avoiding connecting with new people and building new relationships, but I choose not to. I can be a hurt person who passes my hurt...

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Me, Myself, and My Sisters

“Never depend on anyone but yourself.” I’m sure you’ve heard someone say that or maybe even your own life experiences have caused you to think those thoughts to yourself. I totally understand where people are coming from when they make that statement because I have been disappointed a lot in my life by people, so much that at some point I built up walls around my heart to keep people from getting close enough to hurt me. However, the thing I learned about walls is that they don’t only keep other people out, they hold you in. Those walls kept me from not only giving love, but receiving it also. They stopped me from giving support to others so I...

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