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4 Ways to Get & Stay Happy

I am happy. Those 3 words mean a lot to me because for many years, I couldn’t say it and mean it. It took me some time to fully understand what “happiness is a choice” really means and apply it to my life. Looking back, I can totally see why I spent many days unhappy, discouraged, and even depressed. I was choosing to be unhappy because I was making others responsible for my mood, attitude, and confidence level. I was constantly in my feelings over the actions of others, worried about what others would say about my decisions, and afraid of failing because I didn’t want to feel shame or embarrassment. I was creating my own personal hell by allowing...

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“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23 When I would read this Bible verse as a bitter and broken person, I understood it to mean that I should protect myself from people to avoid being heartbroken. Reading it now as a whole and healed woman, I understand it to mean that I should be careful of allowing my heart to grow bitter from uncontrollable life experiences. I have a lot of reasons to be bitter, but I make the choice not to be. I can make plenty of excuses for avoiding connecting with new people and building new relationships, but I choose not to. I can be a hurt person who passes my hurt...

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Me, Myself, and My Sisters

“Never depend on anyone but yourself.” I’m sure you’ve heard someone say that or maybe even your own life experiences have caused you to think those thoughts to yourself. I totally understand where people are coming from when they make that statement because I have been disappointed a lot in my life by people, so much that at some point I built up walls around my heart to keep people from getting close enough to hurt me. However, the thing I learned about walls is that they don’t only keep other people out, they hold you in. Those walls kept me from not only giving love, but receiving it also. They stopped me from giving support to others so I...

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